kinda like a dude, but essentially a girl

I just want it to be said: guys should stop complaining. Just stop. There is something highly unattractive about guys who complain. There is a certain whining about it. And if you listen to what they are complaining about, it does justice to those bar scenes where it is a recurrent theme: “My girl/wife doesn’t understand me…”.

It could very well be that the woman in question doesn’t understand, but there are several easy steps to rectify it. But that is not my concern here.

Everybody complains, and that is fair enough, because there are plenty of things to complain about, but to complain about things like not being allowed to see a movie, meeting friends for beers or something like that proves, to me, that you might not be with the right person.
And here is my problem: I consider myself to be “kinda like a dude, but essentially a girl”, and whatever guys think, this is not what they want. They like the idea, but in real life, not so much. This might be for different reasons. I guess that for some, it just isn’t attractive, even though it might be cool. And meeting a girl who wears the same tee as your male self, might not be a bad thing, it is just not the girl he is going home to.

I’ve tried a bunch of times to be one of five girls to a premiere who didn’t have a boyfriend. It is always fascinating spotting the couples. It is always fun to see the reaction of the guys when they slowly realize that girls who like this or that kind of films exist. That there are some girls who don’t have to be “forced”. They are fascinated. But for different reasons, they don’t respond. Are they threatened? Are they scared? Are they condescending? I don’t know.

I can’t even get a reaction in the comic book shop. Maybe I’m too much a dude…?

My conclusion is easy: guys don’t want girls who are just as themselves, only in girl form. They want someone who “doesn’t understand”. If only to have something to complain about.